While you’re working on implementing that plan to make 2021 a great year, you will inevitably have times when you’re overcome by any or all of these feelings and emotions:
- Fear of the future.
- A sense of being overwhelmed.
- A feeling that you’re “not enough”.
- A feeling that you’ve been rejected.
- Lack of confidence.
- Doubts about your capabilities.
- Confusion about choices.
- Disbelief about your value to clients.
By themselves, these feelings are not the challenge for most advisors.
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The challenge is that we let these negative feelings own our next few hours or days — or even months. We let them cause us to lose focus and momentum and disrupt our actions
We often don’t even realize the huge negative impact that these feelings are having on our actions. We tell ourselves we are in control, but, in reality, these emotions are.
Even when we can see that we’re being affected by negative feelings, we trace those feelings directly back to some event or something that someone said. But that’s a mistake. Events in our lives don’t lead directly to our actions. First, they lead to thoughts. Those thoughts lead to feelings. And the feelings determine the focus and intensity of our actions.
The events don’t cause a disruption. Our thoughts about those events and the emotions they trigger do. We create a story around the event that triggers emotions. If the emotions are negative, they disrupt our actions.