In response to my July Investment Advisor column Endorphinomics: Working on Happiness, about advisory consultant Steve Moeller’s new book “Endorphinomics: The Science of Human Flourishing,” an advisor in Nebraska wrote:
I just read your article: I feel like it is my life. I get the point of your article/book overview: It isn’t all about the money. My wife and kids keep me grounded as does my really great staff and a very eclectic group of friends from all walks of life.
I’ve been through [another advisor business] course and now read that Steve Moeller is a “life coach who specializes in money” with what sounds like a similar system. However, when I go to [my guy’s] annual events as a “graduate,” I feel it is just getting weird. Maybe these systems work in California or other parts of the world, but I’m in Nebraska where introverts stare at their own shoes on the elevator and the extroverts stare at your shoes.
I’m all for getting to know my clients and having solid relationships with my clients that are based on more than just their account size. But it seems like the industry wants me to become a “hugger who watches Oprah’ and not a financial advisor. Becoming that person would mean I’m not my authentic self, which then ties into being happy or not happy in this business. You have to be yourself and no one seems to ever talk about that. Can’t I build a successful business by being myself?”
My response? I know just where you’re coming from.
As I wrote in my column, at first sight I was ready to toss Steve Moeller’s book as another touchy-feely self-help tome. But I think both his point, and your point, is that to be an effective, helpful advisor, you need to be yourself. What I took away from Steve’s book is that a lot of people spend their lives trying to live up to what they think other people expect them to be, Way more often than not, that formula doesn’t lead to happiness. Only you know what will make you happy. But you have to listen to it.