Have you ever noticed how we tend to make the most difficult conversation too flowery, too long, and too convoluted? That’s often because it is hard for us to honestly express our feelings; fear keeps us silent. The DESQ (a.k.a. DESC) assertiveness technique can prove helpful at this point. It goes something like this and requires only four sentences and a minute to complete.
D: Describe in a sentence or two what you perceive to be the current situation.
E: Express how that makes you feel.
S: State what you want.
Q/C: Ask a question or state the consequence.
D: Bob, as you know, we equally split profit after expenses among the four partners. You have reduced your work schedule significantly.
E: I feel anxious that the equity of this arrangement is becoming questionable.