Networking: everything to gain and nothing to fear.
But fear can prevent sales producers, financial advisors, brokers, realtors and job seekers from going to the right places, meeting people, and saying the right things.
Fear also can prevent you from making key connections, sales and job leads.
Here are some common anxieties that can get in your way:
- Fear of saying the wrong thing.
- Fear of forgetting a name.
- Fear of not knowing what to say or what not to say.
- Fear of looking stupid.
- Fear of not knowing an answer, or not knowing the right question.
- Fear of not knowing the right person to talk to.
There also are conversational fears such as not knowing how to introduce yourself, how to properly interrupt a conversation, how to break away from a conversation, how to ask for a business card, or how to establish a follow-up.
There is so much to overcome!
LinkedIn and other forms of social media and selling have made talking to strangers much easier. That’s the good news. The bad news? Every now and then, we still need to talk to real, live people standing right in front of us.
Here are some ways to overcome your fears when speaking with people.
1. Know your purpose.
Are you looking to write more business? If so, what kind of business? What industry, profession, market segment, niche or geography? Are there any company names on your wish list? Be specific about what you want so you’ll do a better job thinking about it, talking about it, and acting upon it. Having a clear cut purpose will also help you feel more confident about delivering your message.
2. Be assertive when introducing yourself.
By assertive, I don’t mean aggressive, as in aggressively interrupting conversations by introducing yourself. By assertive, I mean be direct about taking the initiative to walk up to a total stranger (I’m assuming you’re at a business event) and saying, “Hello, my name is … What have you been up to the last couple of weeks?” (That is one of my favorite “openers.”)
Don’t wait for others to come to you. You make quite the impression being the one to break the ice and set the tone. Besides, you’ll get good at it and feel great about yourself.
3. Ask great questions.
Have a series of conversational questions top of mind that you genuinely want to ask of others. Very often, these are the same types of questions that you might like to be asked.