What stands between you and what you most desire? Your answer might relate to a lack of money, time or support from family or all of three. Obstacles can seem so numerous, so obvious and so tough to change.
You can relate to your obstacles in many ways. Typical responses are to explain them or resist them. Both responses take a lot of time and energy. And both anchor you firmly in the past, keeping your focus on areas of your life that are not working.
To immediately generate alternatives, remember a simple analogy: Imagine that you’re driving down a scenic highway. Suddenly you come to a huge rock in the middle of the road. You have several options: You could try to explain how the rock ended up there or you could go into resistance mode, complaining about the carelessness of highway construction or the lack of state funding for rock removal. Or, you could bypass all this negativity and remove the obstacle from your life at once. Instead of explaining the rock or resisting it, just drive around it.
When faced with obstacles, people often respond with questions based on explanation and resistance, such as:
- Why am I so alone?
- Why does this always happen to me?
- Why am I such a failure?
However, you always have another option. You can ask questions that help you drive around any obstacle in your life. Questions have uncanny power. Questions direct your attention and, along with it, how you think and how you feel. If you want to create different thoughts, feelings and results into your life, then ask different questions.
Start now by skipping the why questions and begin asking what questions. For example:
1. What’s the lesson here? There’s an old saying about learning from experience: Beware the person with 20 years of experience; this may consist of one year of learning and 19 years of repetition.