Thankfully, there aren’t many people in our midst who are able to act dishonestly and destructively without guilt or remorse. Research on these truly disturbed individuals shows that traditional therapy methods fail with them.
As a former psychotherapist, Larry Moskat has a view of persistent liars that is more optimistic than most. Now a Scottsdale, Arizona, financial planner, he writes: “Dealing with the chronic liar/cheater, I believe, requires a more gentle touch and an acceptance of the person as they are–troubled and insecure–while gently but firmly beginning the process of dislodging their alter-selves and supporting the person underneath whom they loathe. Once trust is established, these people will begin to feel free to talk the truth as they come to learn they will not be penalized for truthfulness and honest self-expression. Self-loathing will eventually give way to a renaissance of self-assurance and self-confidence, rendering the lies unnecessary, undesired, and ultimately extinguished.”